Calming Therapeutic Methods for Kids – ANXIETY AND STRESS RELIEF

Calming Therapeutic Methods for Kids – ANXIETY AND STRESS RELIEF


(upbeat music) – Welcome back Massage Nerds, I am so excited for today’s video, look at these amazing kids. I’m going to be showing you
today how to massage kids and because it is October,
we decided to make it like a Halloween theme and also since we live across the border we decided to do it, celebrate the Day of the Dead. So, I’m going to introduce you, this is Miguel, this is Mama Imelda, I am Grandma Coco and this Frida Kahlo. So I am going to be showing
them a little bit of Tai Chi, a little bit of, ah, how to de-stress, so we’re gonna go outside and
we’re gonna do self-massage and some Tai Chi moves. Follow us! Okay, so now I’m gonna
show ’em some Tai Chi moves these really help them relax, if you do these moves in the
morning, they give you energy, if you do them in the
evening, they help you relax. So I’m just gonna show
’em something very basic, something very simple. So what we’re going to do is, let’s flap like birds, let’s fly guys, put your, open up, ah,
spread your, your feet apart like a foot, and then
just fly like a bird, go up and down, flip, flop your wings, like you’re flying through the sky. Flying, letting all that
energy come to your fingertips and then turn your wrist, 3 times, 2, 3 and then let’s fly again, get on your tippy-toes,
come up and fly like a bird, feel that wind running through your wings and again, turn your wrists. (dog barking) – Now we’re gonna do the tossing the ball, so like you have a ball,
like you’re holding a ball put your left foot forward and just like if you’re passing a ball to somebody in front of you, feel that energy coming back to you (breathing deeply) – Breathing in and exhale
and just throwing the ball out there or to somebody else. And then you reverse the ball back, bring it back to you again, towards you, bring all that energy back to you and you can do these about
3 times each movement and this is good enough to
get their energy flowing and going and then you come
back again to the center. Now we’re gonna fly like
eagles over the mountains, how many, who know, who likes eagles? You guys like the eagles? I know you like eagles, let’s fly like eagles, but again, your left foot forward and then you’re going
to fly high, stretch, stretch your arms and fly over
the mountains like the eagles like the mountain tops, think of yourself as big and flying through the clouds and the sky, imagine like you can fly
anywhere in the world, anywhere you would like to fly to. Fly as high as you can. You can do these movements 3 or 4 times, really gets the energy flowing and then you come back and you stop. And you can do it again, you can do one side on the left and one side on the right
with a foot forward. Now I’m going to show them self-massage and this is really good to
get your energy flowing, this is like a Tai Chi also massage, this is what you’re gonna do guys, first you’re going to
rub your hands together, really good, get your energy flowing, then you’re gonna rub your left hand, left hand, rub your left hand, then your left arm, rub it really good, then go to your other hand, and then your arm, rub it really good,
get your energy flowing giving yourself a little massage. Then your shoulders, cross
your arms right here, oh making you sleepy, relax already. Massage your shoulders and your chest. Now you’re belly, like
when you have a belly ache, clockwise, yeah like this,
turning it like a clock there you go, that’s, you
always want to go like a clock rub it really it really good, like, help you relax and
helps with digestion. Now you put your left foot
forward and massage your left leg or your right leg, and then down, go down, do the bottom part, now you go to the other leg, massage, massage your leg, if it hurts get that energy flowing, then the bottom part, now you do the little
spiders, walking on your head, little spiders, little rain
drops falling on your head. And we, oh, they’re relaxed already, now, normally we would massage our face but they have paint on so now we’re just gonna rub our hands together, all that energy that you
collected now it’s on your hands and, you just gonna put it
right in front of your face and get all that good energy back in you. So this little massage really
helps them to get energized and to get their Chi flowing, their energy going, so, something that’s very
simple that you could teach them in 5 minutes, doesn’t have to be too long. (upbeat music) – So now I’m gonna show
the children some, um, finger holds and this comes from my Capacitar International Training, I was very fortunate and blessed
to have Dr Patricia Cane, um, come teach here in El Paso, she has brought this program
here to Texas for 10 years, she travels all over the world teaching some of these techniques, so I’m gonna share the link with you guys so you can look it up. This is where you can find
some of the Tai Chi moves, some of the finger-holds, she does everything from polarity therapy, breath work, head holds, finger-holds, and, uh, Tai Chi, so check it out, it’s really a valuable
tool to teach your children and there’s for adults too,
it’s not just for children but her motto is, heal yourselves so that
you can heal others. So, I’m gonna show them
how to do some finger-holds and they all relate to different fingers, we all have feelings,
we all have emotions. What are some of the
feelings you have sometimes that you deal with? – Ah, stress. – Stressed. – Nervous. – Nervous. – Shy. – Shy. Okay, so I’m gonna show you how to deal with feelings, remember feelings come and go, I think it’s very important
to show our children how to manage their feelings, there’s no bad feelings,
there’s no good feelings, they’re just feelings. Feelings of anger, sadness,
all of that, happiness, they’re just feelings, they come and go, they flow like the ocean, like the waves, there’s neither bad or good, sometimes they’re bigger waves, sometimes they’re smaller waves. So, don’t be afraid of your feelings, they’re normal and I’m
gonna show you how to manage some of these (stutters), uh, manage some of these feelings. And what they are is finger-holds, and they all relate to
different meridians, it doesn’t matter whether
they hold the right or the left, as a matter of fact, I actually do some of the finger-holds like for fear when I go to the dentist, that’s my worst nightmare, so, nobody needs to know when
you’re holding your fingers, nobody needs to know that
you’re feeling anxious or stressed, or happy, or whatever it is you’re feeling at the moment, because all you do is hold
your finger and you know, take deep breaths and
that’s all you gotta do. So they’re very simple,
I do them everyday, you can teach your children, you can teach a, you know if
you have a child that’s crying or an adult that, you know,
that needs some comforting you can go ahead and
share these techniques. I also like to incorporate
some essential oils and I have two different ones, I have the lavender and eucalyptus and this, and defense shield, and these are very good
to help them calm down, like, lavender’s very
soothing for headaches, for muscle aches, eucalyptus
is very good chest congestion, for breathing, the defense
shield is very good for like colds, or to keep
up your immune system, so I like to spray a little bit, you can mix this with a cup of water, hopefully distilled water, and anywhere from 1 to 5 drops, you never wanna use the direct oil, especially on children, okay? And these are products by Isagenix, I’ll give you the link below if you wanna get some essential oils. These finger holds really help you, so I’m gonna start with a thumb, you can hold either one
and just listen to my voice and I’m gonna talk you through it. So first you’re gonna
grab your thumb, okay? So you hold your thumb,
and the thumb is for tears, for sadness, when you’re feeling sad, if you’re feeling sad,
somebody hurt your feelings, then you can hold your thumb, nobody has to see you and
you take deep breaths, so take a deep breath. (deep breath) – In, and exhale (deep breath) – Through your mouth and
take another deep breath in and just feel all that
sadness and all those tears that you might be feeling inside, just, feel that and then when
you exhale, let it all go, let all those tears come
out, let all those feelings of sadness come out because
now when you exhale, they’re gone. Now the next finger is for
when you’re feeling afraid. If you’re ever afraid of something, if you’re moving to a
new place, a new school and you’re not sure, or if
sometimes parents travel and you know, you feel
a little bit afraid, then just go ahead and
hold your second finger, your index finger and
just take a deep breath, take a (deep breath) – Feel that fear and as you exhale, exhale all that fear that you feel. Inhale again and exhale, exhale all that fear that
you’re feeling, okay? One more time, inhale and exhale the fear. The middle finger is for when
you’re upset, you’re angry. Somebody upset you, you’re
mad, either a big brother or sister was picking on you or you know, the kids at the school
didn’t want to talk to you, they were mean to you, so you
can hold your middle finger and feel that, what that feels like, what does it feel like to be angry? So then you take another deep breath (deep breathing) – Feel the anger and just let it out, let all that anger out and another deep breath, breathe in and let it out. And take another deep
breath, do this 3 times, take a deep breath, feel the anger and then exhale all the anger. Now the next finger is for anxiety, when you’re feeling anxious, you might be having a test coming up, you don’t know how it’s going to go or you might be really anxious about, who said anxious? One of you said anxious, right? That you felt anxious so,
if you ever feel anxious just holds your finger and
breathe in and feel that, what it feels like, the anxiety
and then just breathe out the anxiety, breathe in
confidence and strength and breathe out the anxiety, one more time breathe in and breathe out the anxiety. And the last finger hold is
for when you’re feeling shy, when you don’t feel like your enough, when you feel that nobody loves you, when you feel like you’re insecure, so hold your little pinky
and feel all those feelings of insecurity or feeling small, of not feeling like your enough or nobody noticing you, so
then you take a deep breath, inhale in (deep breathing) – And let all that insecurity out and now breathe in again,
breathe in the confidence and the beautiful person that you are and then exhale all the negative feelings, breathe in one more time (deep breathing) – And exhale. And that, you can go either one, you can either hold your
right hand or your left hand, you can do this like I
said, when you’re in school before you take a test, so, now you cross one foot over the other, cross one foot over the other and then put your fingertips together and feel that energy that,
from holding your fingers, there you go, like this, just feel that, you might
feel a little buzzing, you might feel some energy
flowing through your fingers and that is perfectly okay. So now you rub your fingers
together one more time and put that good energy back into you. And those are the finger holds and now you’ve learnt something new. (upbeat music) – Okay so now I’m gonna show
you how you massage kids. Well first thing that you have to do is get a parental permission, so we have a form that the
parent has, to give out and sign to make sure that you
can massage their child, the parent also has to stay
in the same room with you, the mom can’t go shopping
or I’ll be right back, I’m gonna go get food
or I’m gonna go get gas, no, they must be in the room with you, and don’t forget to ask
the, the child’s permission, you know, it’s good to ask them, and you want to use
simple words with them, you don’t want to say oh I’m
gonna massage you’re scapula or anything like that,
you’re gonna say, you know, is it okay if I, you know rub your arm, and get their permission, I feel that kids as young as 3 years old
can really understand so, make sure you get their permission. Another thing that you must
remember is that kids really can’t lay down for that long, massage is typically twenty
minutes to half an hour, depending on the child,
you do have squirmy kids and if they get too squirmy you might wanna go to a different
area so it’s very important that you’re in tune to the signals and if mom or dad are in the room with you and they see that their child
is feeling uncomfortable maybe with a certain move,
then it’s up to you guys, parents, to speak up and
let the massage therapist, like I don’t think he or she likes that. The other thing to keep in mind is that you don’t want to use
any CBD or strong odors, you know like, a strong
oregano essential oil, you wanna keep it light,
something that’s pleasant for them obviously like I said, no CBD oils and another thing that
you can do is make sure that you’re always, that they’re
always covered and draped and what I have them do
is they wear a tank top and shorts, and that’s important. So, make sure you ask if
they have allergies too cause sometimes children
may have allergies to a certain scent, I knew of somebody that
was allergic to lavender so they had a reaction, so make
sure that you ask the parent or you know, if the child’s old enough. Now obviously the older the child maybe the more they can handle but if you have a younger person, you know less than let’s say
7 or 6, maybe twenty minutes and somebody, you know, a
little bit older will be able to handle the 30 minutes. Always make sure, parents, if you are gonna be
massaging your children and massage therapists
should already know this, it’s on the limbs, the arms and the legs, you always massage towards the heart, so that’s a very important rule, I’m giving you and showing you tips that maybe you parents want to try at home and your welcome to do that, but just make sure that
when you are using, ah, massage techniques on their arms it’s always towards the heart, you can do the light ones going down which these are called
the nerve-ending strokes you can do them going down. The reason that we do towards
the heart when you use a little bit of more pressure is because the veins have valves and they close when the
blood flows through, so they close and you don’t want to push against those valves, because
they’re always returning the blood towards the heart, so on the legs, the legs and the arms, make sure you go towards the heart the back it doesn’t matter and the stomach remember
is always clockwise. So I’m gonna show you on Mama
Imelda how to massage her arms and how to massage her limbs, and like I said, no deep pressure okay? No deep tissue massage on kids, you don’t wanna hurt ’em and nothing really strong smelling. You can do you effleurage, you can your regular petrissage,
very softly and gently, they really like the flow
when it’s a little slower unless you have an athlete
that maybe’s gonna go run and they need to do a little bit faster. (guitar playing) – You can do their forearm. Don’t forget that you always
wanna do your nerve-ending strokes, and I like to make them fun when I’m working with kids so, I like to do the car-wash, just like if you’re going to the car-wash and it’s washing your car, you can do these three times, you can do the little spider kisses, just little tapping up and down their arm or you can do the angel kisses and you can do the kitty scratches just get the backside of your nails and do little bit of scratches, so, make sure that you always
end with nerve-ending strokes, you can massage the wrist, each finger, (guitar music) – And they always like
getting their hands massaged they really enjoy that. It really helps them to relax. So now I’m gonna move to her leg and you wanna make sure that you tuck in like right at the leg,
like around the knee. And she is wearing her
black shorts underneath. So you wanna make sure,
make ’em feel comfortable. You can start at the foot. (guitar music) – Especially kids that play sports, you know if they’re up
on their feet all day, you know, she’s a soccer player so I know her legs hurt, sometimes, and I know her
tibialis anterior was hurting. So, you can go gently,
remember no deep pressure, I felt her tighten up the
minute I went a little too deep, right here, I felt her tighten up so, I’m sensitive enough to have felt that, so I wanna make sure and back off but also the client can let you know, give ’em permission to tell you, say, oh let me know if it’s too much or if you don’t like something or even if you like something
so I can do it again. So you wanna make sure
you go around the knee and the quads, so that’s the petrissage, effleurage now, you can do a little
friction around the knee. And again you can do the car wash, when you’re done. The little spider kisses,
that usually tickles, she’s in a trance now I can tell (laughing) – The little angel kisses, it’s just a little bit of
tapotement with your fingertips and the little kitty scratches and they really enjoy
those nerve-ending strokes. I think with children
they really appreciate the nerve-ending strokes more, it really helps them to relax. (guitar music) – So now that she’s in
the prone position, again, you wanna make sure,
and tuck the sheet in, like around the knee and then
pull it all the way through where her foot is exposed. I want to show you the back of the leg, because I know that since
she is a soccer player her legs have been hurting her, and remember parents
and massage therapists you always go towards the
heart, always towards the heart and here you can do your
petrissage, which is kneading, you can do full-handed
kneading with both hands or your finger kneading. You can go cross-fiber, this one feels good too, going cross cross-fiber
really gets the blood, stagnant blood out of the muscles and always do your
effleurage for transition, you don’t wanna go up to high, you know she is wearing her shorts but you don’t want to
go to high on the leg, maybe mid-thigh with kids. I call this the plow,
like somebodies plowing the back of your legs. And its always fun when you
call these strokes different names for kids, they like that. So now we’re doing the car-wash and we’re doing the spider kisses, the kitty scratches (piano music) – And the angel kisses. So this is a little bit
of tapotement in there, just to get the blood flowing and then you can do her
foot, the bottom of her foot. We have the kidney meridian here, so we have meridians, I
like to work with meridians just like when we did the finger holds, they all have to do with meridians. You wanna do one toe at a time, a little bit of reflexology, all the head, this is the reflex to the head. From the third of the foot up, are reflexes to your upper body. From the middle part of your ah, foot, is the middle part of your body and from the heal down
it’s all the reflexes to the lower part of your body. So when you work the bottom of the foot, it has to go with a certain organ, so you can massage every part
of the bottom of the foot and it will reflect to an organ, like these are the sinus points, I like to do each toe at a time and then go across, stimulate the kidney meridian, and just really over, it’s
really good for their you know, for their feet cause kids
up most of the time walking and running, especially
when they play sports make sure you get the ankles
and the achilles tendon, real gentle. (upbeat music) – The main thing to remember
about the arms and the legs is to massage towards the heart, in the back it doesn’t matter, but in the limbs it does. So now I’m gonna show you how
you can work the shoulders and the head, you know be very gentle, but you can do circular motions all around the occipital ridge right here, you can really
do a good head scratch, make sure you good, to
get the sagittal suture on top of the head, this is
very important right here and just remember this
is more for relaxation and to get the blood circulating, you can do their ears and I would do his face,
but, I don’t think I’m gonna be able to do that. But some of the things
you can do on the face, I like the little spider kisses,
you can do the effleurage, you know, and you can just
figure out some things that you can do on the face, so now
I’m gonna get my regular oil, remember you don’t use CBD
oil on the kids so I just use the regular glide oil and I’m gonna get his shoulders and in between the scapulas. What I’m doing is I’m
going up the scapula, not too much pressure,
remember you don’t do deep pressure on kids, this is
not about going really hard. You ask them to take a
deep breath and relax. You can turn the head to one side and mainly you can use fingers so it’s a little bit
more soothing and slow. (guitar playing) – Their bodies are so tiny. (laughing) I’m use to big bodies. Turn the head the other
way and now the other side. (guitar playing) – So once your done with the shoulders, see how long you know, you can
work on them 5 to 10 minutes and I would like to show you
how to do some abdomen work. So, when you are gonna
work on the abdomen, you wanna make sure and
always go clock-wise, remember you wanna go ascending transverse and descending colon. This is really good for ah,
kids that have tummy aches, you don’t wanna press hard, you just want to get the stomach going. If they are having a little
bit of issues with constipation you wanna make sure and go
down to the descending colon on the left side, you can make sure and go underneath the ribs
here to get to the diaphragm so that they can breathe better, you know, you can do
just very gentle strokes, very soothing if you
have, if you have cinnamon it’s really good for tummy
aches but you’d never wanna use cinnamon directly on the skin. So you can have a carrier
oil and it’s a warm oil, remember cinnamon is a warm oil, where eucalyptus is a cool oil. So you just wanna go clock-wise, you can do also across from here and really stretch and even
get the ribs right here. (guitar music) – And then you want to end
it with a clockwise motion rubbing your hands together
and just putting some good healing energy into their tummy’s especially if they have a tummy ache. So now I’m gonna show you
how to massage the back and we switch and this is Frida Kahlo now. So, you wanna start with long
smooth strokes on the back, just kinda gentle to
start helping them relax, you know I like to be right here and do a little petrissage
on their shoulders, go all the way across the
shoulders, do some petrissage, you can also go around the angel wings, she’s got little angel wings which for us that would be the scapulas. So we go around and like,
remember no deep tissue pressure on kids, okay? So you can go
around the other angel wing and another one that I like
to do is the snake crawling on her back, she’s
squirming, she’s laughing, the little snake, crawling on her back and it’s okay if you have squirmy kids and they calm down, that’s fine. And I also like to do like the
little stomping on the back, I call this the elephant
stomping on her back, right on the sides, you always go on the
sides of the vertebrae, never directly on the spinous process, that’s a no-no. So you can do the elephant
walking on her back, and again you can do transition, always transition with effleurage, make sure you transition. So you can do some petrissage right here, all the way down her back, up her back, you can do some cross-fiber
strokes on her back and kinda squeeze a little bit, this kind of squeezes
the organs a little bit so this is really good for
children that you know maybe have some problems with their lungs. Oh, let me show you another
one that you can do, some tapping, the elephant-walking
but a little bit harder on the upper-portions,
especially if they’ve had a cough and this cupping too (slapping) – This really brings up the phlegm, if you do a little bit of
tapping where you make noise this really helps the kids cough and get that phlegm out of their lungs. So that’s one of the
techniques that you can use, the cross-fiber, the long effleurage. You can just make sure you
get all of the shoulder right here, all of her shoulder, all the way up to her neck,
nice, long, smooth strokes. You can do the little
snake going down her back and going up her back and on the opposite side, you always go on the side of the spine, never right on it, you can wiggle it, the opposite raking, if you have a child that’s squirming you know you can stop that
and go to a different area, maybe to her shoulder
to kinda help her relax a little bit more, you don’t wanna over-do it and then maybe you can come
back and do something different so, if it’s uncomfortable
for them, don’t over-do it. So if they are very ticklish and squirmy, then you just go to a long stroke, go to the long strokes,
long, smoothing strokes, you can come up to their shoulder and just work their shoulder out. And you might be able to
go back to some of these other areas, but be mindful
and respectful of the cues that the child is giving
you, this is about respecting the space of the child and
um, making sure that they have a good experience, especially
if it’s their first massage, you wanna make sure that
you have a good experience. I also wanted to show you, that
I forgot to show you earlier this is important, you
wanna do friction between the scapulas cause a lot
of the kids nowadays, they carry those heavy
backpacks, and it just, I don’t understand like, I
don’t know about other parts of the country but here in El Paso, I know that children
sometimes don’t have a locker and they carry that big old backpack and sometimes they just
carry it on one shoulder and it’s off. I’ve worked on children
with scoliosis already because, I mean, I don’t know if it’s because of the backpacks but
I just really want to stress, one of the tips that I can
give you is to make sure that the backpack is even
between the shoulder blades, the weight is carried right
in the middle of the back and straightened and make sure
that you tighten the straps, a lot of the kids carry
the backpack way low, and that’s really too much
pressure for them on the low back so you wanna make sure and have it higher and one of the techniques
that you can do for them is really do some friction
between the shoulder blades you know, work this area out and like I said no deep pressure
but you can really kinda even do with your finger
a little bit, get, you know, push down all
the stress that they have between their scapulas down. Now we’re gonna do kitty scratches, kids love kitty scratches and
you can always ask the child, which one’s your favorite? The kitty scratches, or the spider kisses? (laughing) – And you can always do a
little bit extra of something that they like, spider
kisses, angel kisses, she’s just ticklish today and remember these are
nerve-ending strokes, very important to let the
body know that it can go back and relax, bring the body back
to parasympathetic system, so parasympathetic is the relaxing one, little angels wings, with
the back of your fingertips, large angel wings cause
she’s got big wings cause she’s an angel, the back of your fingertips
just slightly touching. And then you’ve got, just
some nerve-ending strokes right here to really help her relax. And you always want to
have your own touches to how you finish the massage, I always end it with me putting, you know rubbing my hands together, putting all that good energy back in ’em so then I just end and this way they know, they know that you’re finished. You put your hands on ’em, I
always say a little prayer, a meditation, so that’s it
guys, I hope you’ve enjoyed our kids videos and
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below if wanna check out Capacitar and also some
of the Isagenix oils. So till the next time, create a good day. My Grandma Coco braids are
not letting me work today. (laughing) – I’m not used to working with hair – [Camera Person] Paying attention – [Grandma Coco] Paying attention! Like, pay attention to your teacher! – (gasps) – You’re doing okay, was that too hard? Was that too hard? – It’s perfectly fine. – It’s perfectly fine, okay,
I’m glad it was perfectly fine. Stop squirming. – Sorry. – Bring the body back to um, wow, my mind just went blank. So I’m gonna show you on Mama, what’s your Melda? So I’m gonna show you on Mama Imelda how to massage her arms. Cut, wait okay, so wait okay,
so let me continue here. – I don’t know – (laughing) – (upbeat music)

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